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While I am creating the weekly SIHPs, I write about other trauma responses, especially the 'fawn' response, which many people may not know about. Usually we hear "fight, flight, freeze", right? Psychotherapist and Complex PTSD expert Pete Walker is the person who came up with this term and its definition. Fawning refers to people who try to appease or please their abuser as a response to the abuse. I am absolutely and will never be someone who fawns. I'm not suggesting that

Because I am a victim of emotional abuse, I can quickly recognize it in other relationships. I'm a keen observer of verbal and non-verbal cues from others that show me they're an abuser and when other people tell me their own stories of living with an emotional abuser (which is usually a parent when the person is still a minor or a young adult), it is very difficult for me to deal with it because I want to help fix it. That's just my nature and I can't help it. There are more

If I told you how many doctors I have seen, how many diagnoses I've been given, how many prescriptions I've tried, how many confused healthcare professionals I have faced, you'd be shocked. I am sure of it. Right now, at my age, I'm dealing with chronic pain, mostly in my joints, and tendons that are so frayed that they can snap, and have snapped, causing pain I absolutely cannot describe to you. I didn't realize until I read the book "The Body Keeps The Score" that the reaso

This photo was taken some years ago at a motorcycle rally for women riders in Milwaukee, WI. Part of me is a rebellious badass... but there's also a part of me that's still a terrified little girl who has to try to control everything around her because she cannot allow chaos and unpredictability to take hold. I've always wanted to make a difference. I've always dreamed about changing the world and so far I've done it by improving the learning experiences of tens of thousands