The Still I Heal Project
Healing childhood trauma, one survivor at a time
Choosing Differently Group Coaching Program
From Survival to
Intentional Living
You survived your past. Now it's time to discover who you want to become.
For many survivors of childhood emotional abuse, the patterns that helped them survive don't simply disappear when they become adults.
You might suffer from people-pleasing, perfectionism, difficulty setting boundaries, feeling responsible for everyone else's emotions, questioning your worth and staying in relationships or situations that no longer serve you.
These patterns may have protected you once. But they don't have to define the rest of your life.
Choosing Differently is a forthcoming 12-week, trauma-informed educational coaching program created by Dr. Angela Solic, founder of the Still I Heal Project. Through guided reflection, practical strategies learned in asynchronous online course materials, a private social community, and live, supportive learning experiences, participants will explore how their past may be influencing their present and begin developing the awareness and skills needed to make more intentional choices.
You do not have to blame yourself for the ways you learned to survive. You can recognize that you have choices now that you may not have had then.
Once you know, you can choose differently.
Is Choosing Differently Right for you?
You may have built a successful career, raised a family, or created a life that looks perfectly fine from the outside.
But inside, you may still be carrying beliefs and behaviors that developed long before you had the power to choose differently.
This program may be for you if:
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You experienced childhood emotional abuse, criticism, neglect, or chronic family dysfunction.
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You recognize that your childhood experiences still influence your relationships, parenting, work, or important life decisions.
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You struggle with people-pleasing, perfectionism, over-functioning, or constantly questioning yourself.
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You find it difficult to establish boundaries without feeling guilty.
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You recognize unhealthy relationship patterns but aren't always sure how to change them.
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You've spent much of your life meeting everyone else's expectations and are beginning to wonder what you actually want.
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You're ready to move beyond simply understanding your past and begin practicing healthier, more intentional choices.
You don't have to have everything figured out before you begin. Choosing Differently is designed for adults who are willing to reflect, learn, practice new skills, and take an active role in shaping their futures.
The program helps you discover who you can become when survival no longer has to make every decision.
Your 12-week Journey
Three phases. Twelve weeks. A new way forward.
Weeks 1-4
RECOGNIZE
Understand What Happened and What You Learned to Do
Explore how childhood experiences shaped your beliefs, survival roles, emotional triggers,
and relationship patterns.
Begin recognizing the connections between your past and the choices you make today.
Weeks 5-8
RELEARN
Build Healthier Ways of Responding
Strengthen self-trust, practice setting boundaries without guilt, develop healthier communication skills, and learn to evaluate relationships through the lenses of safety, reciprocity, and accountability.
Weeks 9-12
CHOOSE
Practice Living Intentionally
Rediscover your values and identity beyond survival, identify cycles you want to break, and practice making decisions that reflect the person you want to become. Finish with your personalized Choosing Differently Roadmap and 90-Day Integration Plan.
You cannot change your past, but you can change how much power it has over your present and future.
What to Expect
Choosing Differently is a 12-week, trauma-informed educational group experience designed to help adults move from patterns of survival toward more intentional living.
Through guided learning, meaningful reflection, supportive group conversations, and practical opportunities for personal growth, participants will explore new ways of understanding themselves and making choices that align with who they want to become.
The program offers a small, supportive, respectful learning environment where participants can move at their own pace. Cohorts will be limited to 10 people.
Choosing Differently is an educational and coaching program, not psychotherapy or a substitute for professional mental health treatment.
Anticipated inaugural cohort available very early 2027. Cost not yet determined. Signing up that you are interested does NOT mean you're obligated to anything and does not mean your spot is secured for the first cohort.